There are situations in life that lift us up and situations that consume all of our energy to the point that we feel powerless to do anything. There are people who seem to be draining our energy and we automatically stay away from them, but what if it is actually us that is draining our energy? What thoughts weaken us, which thoughts strengthen us, and how can we escape the loop of annoying thoughts?
Thought patterns that hurt us weaken us, make us tired and low on energy, and don’t propel us forward – but quite the opposite. It is actually an internal chatter that goes on within us and sometimes we are so used to this chatter that we don’t even know that we are weakening ourselves and that our thoughts are the reason we are in a bad mood.
These thoughts are self-perceptions we have formed over the years, for example: I’m bad with money, I’ll never find a healthy relationship, I’m a failure, I’m mediocre, there are better people than me, I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy or I always fail. When it’s our inner speech, when we’re used to thinking in this pattern because that’s how we’ve grown up and come to terms with life situations, we’re in a kind of loop that we can’t get out of – because it’s taken. We’ve had years to come to these conclusions, so how do we escape them now?
One way to help us is to find a new faith. That is: find ways to break this belief that weakens us, for example ‘I will never get into a relationship because love is hard to find these days’, and replace it with a belief that drives us forward, that we can trust. Like finding people who have found great love and showing the brain that it is possible.
Eliyahu Weissman, a consultant in cognitive studies and author of The Clue, claims that when we focus on growing up and feeding ourselves with thoughts like ‘I don’t deserve it’ or ‘I’ll never be good enough’, our brains try to find places to justify this thought and then tell ourselves that we’re not good enough. There will be situations in our lives that prove it.
“When we interpret the situation as saying that we are not good enough, we only see what is not good in a particular event and evidence that we are not good or worthy. This does not happen for nothing, but because stress hormones are present. It makes us think of the worst that can happen. It is a defense mechanism that prevents us from being devoured by a tiger, but “We are not really life, we are living conditions,” says Weissman.
3 steps to get out of the loop of blocking thoughts
- Less Mantras More Meditation – “A lot of people try to help themselves by memorizing all kinds of mantras, but in reality, if we start saying mantras to ourselves, it doesn’t work, because the only way is to adapt to our emotional system,” says Weissman, “If one tells oneself that I am not good, this thought creates validation through difficult emotions such as sadness, despair, or nerves. . In order for him to receive new information, his emotional system needs to change. One way is meditation, the goal of meditation is to quiet our analytical mind, observe, and then begin to create feelings that match the new thought we want to create.
- Enter a state of gratitude – “When a person overcomes himself with gratitude, this thought will have another effect.”
- Questions shift focus – “When I feel unworthy, to ask a question – Is this true? Is there a situation in which I felt worthy? A person must look at the situations in which he feels unworthy and ask a new one there. Am I worthy of my effort? Is it my effort? Can I feel worthy by looking at it from a new angle? ?”
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